The First Time in Forever
1st view of Susanville in 34 years |
A Lot Can Happen in 34 Years
My divorce was very simple. The judge in Susanville was a family friend. I typed the papers myself on a typewriter. After mailing a copy to my ex-husband and securing the "Return Receipt" the judge stamped the divorce final on May 25 and only charged me a $25 fee for filing. This past summer I acquired the official copy for another $25.
To get the real ID from the DMV one must have: Record of all name changes (ie: birth, marriage, divorce if you changed your name), SS card, two forms of current address not over a month old and $27. If at the same time you want to change your name on the title of a vehicle...that is free.
I had been Mrs. D.M. Burnham since Oct 17 1987. My divorce papers were presented to me Oct. 17, 2015. My son was still living with me, so changing my name at the time didn't seem right. When I transferred to a different school in my district last March, I was no longer Mrs. Burnham. At this new school they called me, Teacher Deena.
As the time approached for needing the real ID to fly, I chose to reclaim my name. Deena Marie Orr is now my legal name. I have spent a lot of time and a reasonable amount of money to provide DMV with all the documentation needed to prove my identify. While I was at it, I also filed for a passport. They cashed my check, so I hope to see that in the mail soon.
No More Shame on Me
As a child the phrase, "Shame on you." was said more often than it ever should. It is a phrase that I feel no child or person should have said to them. However, it was a teaching tool. No person should feel shame for an error or illness. Disgracing your family, being improper, public humiliation are things I grew up believing were my total existence. I married two men that seemed very different, but in reality they were excellent at putting shame on me. Being taught that I was less than, not good enough for anything or anyone, was my belief, until four years ago.
Enough
I have learned that: I am enough! You are enough! I have had enough! Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt!
Chonda Pierce T-shirt |
August Milestones
My amazing children have been busy the past three years giving me even more amazing "Grandchildren".
Trader Joe's gave her flowers |
Grammie Jammies |
"For me and Bear" |
Ellie Anne was 8 months old August 10th.
Judah Earnest Pick |
what a handsome boy💗 |
I have many more adventures to record. For today this is enough😉 I'm out house sitting again.
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